Gender Roles in Dating
2019 on Netflix began with the new series known as ‘You’. Everyone went crazy on all social media, posting about it everywhere. Personally, I’ve always been into crime type of shows and videos, so a TV series seemed like a perfect fit and the fact that it was pretty short was also a plus. Once I got into the show, after the first few episodes I was not as impressed based on the hype I had seen on social media. It was very predictable, once you knew the characters and understood the timeline, you basically knew the ending. It’s a typical young heterosexual adult dating situation but of course the male in the relationship becomes obsessive, which is what we see everywhere these days. As I continued to watched, don’t get me wrong the show sucks you in all though you somewhat know the ending, I wonder what it would’ve been like if they both were equally obsessed or if the female took the role. Therefore in my adaptation, I’ll be flipping gender roles. I’ll have the female portrait the dominate stalker obsessive character and have the male be the victim. Doing this I feel as if it will make woman look more powerful although it is being portrayed in a evil situation.
Annotated Bibliography
“Why Do (Some) Men Murder the Wives They Love?” *
This article focuses on the idea that some people (statically mostly males) feel as they cannot go on without their significant other, leading to them murdering their partner. The following is a quote from the article written by Ben-Zeév, providing a reason why they feel as murder is the only option.
“The murder is not an unintended result of violence that went too far—as most of these murders are well-planned. Furthermore, wife murder cannot be understood in terms of loss of control or local insanity. It is rather a deliberate act which is the result of emotional ripeness that created mental readiness for committing the murder as an act of profound despair that is ready to destroy the other even if this means destroying oneself” (Ben Zeév).
The point Ben Zeév tries to get across in this part of the article that I’ve quoted above, is that in these situations a murder doesn’t just happen. Neither is it unexpected for the person committing the crime, although for the victim and their family and friends, it will be a big shocker. The person who commits the act has not always had the murder state of mind but rather has gotten to that mental readiness because they are desperate and they feel as if that’s the only way to solve the issue. It is just seen as the easiest solution for that problem. This will inform my project because I will be taking a look at gender roles when it comes to relationships and how they correlate (gender and relationship tendencies).
“Social Media Has 'Emboldened' Stalkers, Officials Say.”
This article talks about how social media has changed the way we look at people. It’s very easy to look up people on the web by simply having their first name. You can find out anything about the person. It’s also became a way to stalk people without ever even meeting them. “Become victims without their stalker even being present (Carlson)” Social media allows people to use a fake name.
“Signs Of Obsessive Love.” *
This article talks about the really knowing difference between being in love and obsessive over another. When two people begin a relationship it’s common that they’ll talk to others about then non-stop or they’ll be seen together everywhere al the time. Sometimes this “new love birds” stage can drag on and last many months or in some cases not stop. People can view it as thes couple just caring and loving each other but it’s far more than that. Signs Of Obsessive states, “However, it is much more than simple caring or possessiveness. In fact it is a serious bell for trouble that might affect your life forever. Obsession is a form of psychological problem that makes a person behaves in a compulsive manner.” According to this article, you will be able to find out if someone is obsessed with another with the following five signs, abusive, over possessiveness, isolation, many surprises, and lack of personal space. This will inform my project since the source I’am basing my project on includes the concept of obsessing and the main character shows signs of those signs throughout the series.
Works Cited
Ben-Zeév, Aaron. “Why Do (Some) Men Murder the Wives They Love?” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 Sept. 2014, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201409/why-do-some-men-murder-the-wives-they-love.
Maran, Daniela Acquadro, and Antonella Varetto. "Psychological Impact of Stalking on Male and Female Health Care Professional Victims of Stalking and Domestic Violence." Frontiers in Psychology, 2018. Academic OneFile, http://link.galegroup.com/apps/doc/A530866512/AONE?u=maine&sid=AONE&xid=928e2de3. Accessed 3 May 2019.
Lanigan, Roisin. “Netflix's 'You' Shows the Problem We Still Have Separating Romance from Emotional Abuse.” I, VICE, 4 Jan. 2019, i-d.vice.com/en_us/article/qvqqjv/netflixs-you-series-1-ending-explained-emotional-abuse-stalking.
MacDonald, Keza. “Social Media Spying Is Turning Us into a Stalking Society | Keza
MacDonald.” The Guardian, Guardian News and Media, 13 Feb. 2018, 10:58, www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking.
Sharos, David. “Social Media Has 'Emboldened' Stalkers, Officials Say.” Aurora Beacon-News, Chicago Tribune , 17 Jan. 2018, www.chicagotribune.com/suburbs/aurora-beacon-news/news/ct-abn-stalking-st-0118-20180117-story.html
“Signs Of Obsessive Love.” Asianetindia.Com, 2017. EBSCOhost, search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&AuthType=cookie,ip,uid&db=edsgin&AN=edsgcl.489952548&site=eds-live
2019 on Netflix began with the new series known as ‘You’. Everyone went crazy on all social media, posting about it everywhere. Personally, I’ve always been into crime type of shows and videos, so a TV series seemed like a perfect fit and the fact that it was pretty short was also a plus. Once I got into the show, after the first few episodes I was not as impressed based on the hype I had seen on social media. It was very predictable, once you knew the characters and understood the timeline, you basically knew the ending. It’s a typical young heterosexual adult dating situation but of course the male in the relationship becomes obsessive, which is what we see everywhere these days. As I continued to watched, don’t get me wrong the show sucks you in all though you somewhat know the ending, I wonder what it would’ve been like if they both were equally obsessed or if the female took the role. Therefore in my adaptation, I’ll be flipping gender roles. I’ll have the female portrait the dominate stalker obsessive character and have the male be the victim. Doing this I feel as if it will make woman look more powerful although it is being portrayed in a evil situation.
Annotated Bibliography
“Why Do (Some) Men Murder the Wives They Love?” *
This article focuses on the idea that some people (statically mostly males) feel as they cannot go on without their significant other, leading to them murdering their partner. The following is a quote from the article written by Ben-Zeév, providing a reason why they feel as murder is the only option.
“The murder is not an unintended result of violence that went too far—as most of these murders are well-planned. Furthermore, wife murder cannot be understood in terms of loss of control or local insanity. It is rather a deliberate act which is the result of emotional ripeness that created mental readiness for committing the murder as an act of profound despair that is ready to destroy the other even if this means destroying oneself” (Ben Zeév).
The point Ben Zeév tries to get across in this part of the article that I’ve quoted above, is that in these situations a murder doesn’t just happen. Neither is it unexpected for the person committing the crime, although for the victim and their family and friends, it will be a big shocker. The person who commits the act has not always had the murder state of mind but rather has gotten to that mental readiness because they are desperate and they feel as if that’s the only way to solve the issue. It is just seen as the easiest solution for that problem. This will inform my project because I will be taking a look at gender roles when it comes to relationships and how they correlate (gender and relationship tendencies).
“Social Media Has 'Emboldened' Stalkers, Officials Say.”
This article talks about how social media has changed the way we look at people. It’s very easy to look up people on the web by simply having their first name. You can find out anything about the person. It’s also became a way to stalk people without ever even meeting them. “Become victims without their stalker even being present (Carlson)” Social media allows people to use a fake name.
“Signs Of Obsessive Love.” *
This article talks about the really knowing difference between being in love and obsessive over another. When two people begin a relationship it’s common that they’ll talk to others about then non-stop or they’ll be seen together everywhere al the time. Sometimes this “new love birds” stage can drag on and last many months or in some cases not stop. People can view it as thes couple just caring and loving each other but it’s far more than that. Signs Of Obsessive states, “However, it is much more than simple caring or possessiveness. In fact it is a serious bell for trouble that might affect your life forever. Obsession is a form of psychological problem that makes a person behaves in a compulsive manner.” According to this article, you will be able to find out if someone is obsessed with another with the following five signs, abusive, over possessiveness, isolation, many surprises, and lack of personal space. This will inform my project since the source I’am basing my project on includes the concept of obsessing and the main character shows signs of those signs throughout the series.
Works Cited
Ben-Zeév, Aaron. “Why Do (Some) Men Murder the Wives They Love?” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 Sept. 2014, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/201409/why-do-some-men-murder-the-wives-they-love.
Maran, Daniela Acquadro, and Antonella Varetto. "Psychological Impact of Stalking on Male and Female Health Care Professional Victims of Stalking and Domestic Violence." Frontiers in Psychology, 2018. Academic OneFile, http://link.galegroup.com/apps/doc/A530866512/AONE?u=maine&sid=AONE&xid=928e2de3. Accessed 3 May 2019.
Lanigan, Roisin. “Netflix's 'You' Shows the Problem We Still Have Separating Romance from Emotional Abuse.” I, VICE, 4 Jan. 2019, i-d.vice.com/en_us/article/qvqqjv/netflixs-you-series-1-ending-explained-emotional-abuse-stalking.
MacDonald, Keza. “Social Media Spying Is Turning Us into a Stalking Society | Keza
MacDonald.” The Guardian, Guardian News and Media, 13 Feb. 2018, 10:58, www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2018/feb/13/social-media-spying-stalking.
Sharos, David. “Social Media Has 'Emboldened' Stalkers, Officials Say.” Aurora Beacon-News, Chicago Tribune , 17 Jan. 2018, www.chicagotribune.com/suburbs/aurora-beacon-news/news/ct-abn-stalking-st-0118-20180117-story.html
“Signs Of Obsessive Love.” Asianetindia.Com, 2017. EBSCOhost, search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&AuthType=cookie,ip,uid&db=edsgin&AN=edsgcl.489952548&site=eds-live